If you’re starting a business, you’ll most likely read a few books, follow some finance blogs and conduct painstaking research. When you’re trying to lose weight, you count calories, download fitness apps and set small, attainable goals en route to your big goal.
So why do we leave it to chance when it comes to creating consistently mind-blowing, amazingly fulfilling sex?
When you’d like to live the sex life of your dreams, it’ll involve you digging deep, being vulnerable and becoming a sponge when it comes to learning. If you’re willing to do this, your sex life will become like an incredibly sweet piece of fruit that only gets sweeter, yet you never become bored or overcome by the taste.
To get started with this, use the three tips below. Get Quiet on a Regular Basis
The reason that many people can’t have the sex life that they want is that they simply can’t get out of their own heads.
When you go into sex bringing your logic brain, you’re unable to tap into the animalistic and emotional feelings that let you bring your best self to the bedroom. Instead, you’ll be mechanical at best, and a prisoner to your fears and anxiety at worst.
Becoming a regular meditator
is a must if you’re hoping to revolutionize your sex life.
Meditation is a tool that helps you come back to the present moment. You need this ability in the bedroom, so that you’re able to relax into the mood and give and take with your partner. If your mind is always jumping from one place to another unchecked, you’re more likely to prematurely ejaculate if you’re a man, or have dry, uncomfortable, unconnected sex if you’re a woman.
If you’re new to meditation, perish the thought that it has to be in a lotus position, burning essential oils and incense and chanting mantras. While this can be your meditation experience, you don’t need to be a yogi to enjoy the life-enhancing, scientifically proven benefits that meditative practices bring.
For one, meditation is a huge stress reliever, so you’ll be able to engage in sex that is rejuvenative, rather than frantic. Meditation also builds empathy, so you’ll be more attuned to the desires, needs and expressions of your partner. Further, meditation builds your mind-body connection, allowing you to enhance the sheer amount of pleasure that your senses observe when you have sex.
If you and your partner both embrace meditation, you’ll begin bringing your best selves to the bedroom and can enjoy a sexual renaissance that you could have never predicted. Train For Sex Life a Fighter or Marathon Runner
Since a big part of sex is physical, why wouldn’t you seek to bring your best physicality with you to each encounter?
The majority of people who don’t work out regularly don’t have a big enough “why”. When you’re a kid, no one has to tell you to get outside and play, but adulthood brings bills and stressors that make it difficult to remember why exercise is so beneficial.
If you shift your mindstate and train so that you can have the most high-energy, free, unrestricted sex you could have imagined, it’ll be much easier to stick to a workout plan. The results speak for themselves as well.
People who workout regularly have higher self-image, which lets you express yourself confidently during sex. You’ll also enjoy more blood flow to your brain, heart and sex organs, will have strength, flexibility and agility to handle any sexual position, and will have the stamina to last literally as long as you’d like.
Yoga is a great form of exercise that can turn you into a sexual machine. You’ll have healthy lungs and your muscles and joints will love you.
Running is a great physical and mental exercise that lets you have marathon sex.
Bringing the emotional energy of training with a goal will also elevate the way you think about sex. You’ll work hard and settle for nothing but the funnest, hottest and most expressive sex possible when your fitness and nutrition are consciously involved. Make Eye Contact and Truly Talk To Each Other
Eye contact is so underrated in the bedroom.
It’s the difference between two people simply getting off, and truly connecting and sharing with each other. Imagine how hot using toys
in bed will be when you’re looking your partner in the eyes as they receive delicious amounts of pleasure.
It keeps you in the moment and builds the connection, which is great for the relationship and the sex itself. You’ll feel closer to each other and will truly feel like you have nothing to hide. Increasing this level of trust will make your relationships more playful and fulfilling. This helps you reduce the stress and anxiety of relationships, and will decrease the senseless fights.
You’ll be able to stop everything and truly take your partner in, allowing your senses to go wild. Once you’ve experienced highly fulfilling sex like this, you’ll never again settle for disconnected, kind of there, but not really sex that can leave you frustrated.
You should also become an insatiable reader of material that can help you put these tips into play. Books like “Mating in Captivity”, The Kama Sutra and “Way of the Superior Man” provide excellent food for thought that will help you grow.
Keep them in your library and also get the audio versions so that you’re continuously learning and growing.
So what are you waiting for?
Turn this theories into facts by testing them out for yourself in your sex life.
Think of these guidelines as tools that guide you to the promised land, as you babystep your way to sexual paradise.
When you take heed to these points, you’ll make your sex life a journey, rather than just something that you do from time to time when the urge hits you.
Use these points and prepare to dive as deep as possible to create the sex life you know you want.