mom inspired her blog
What has been your experience with motherhood?I had a hard time conceiving, but I really wanted the physical experience of being a mother. I wanted that self-discovery of nurturing someone. When I had Huck, I approached motherhood with the idea that he is more of my bud and a sidekick. He's such a unique kid. When he was born, the one thing I really noticed about him was that he was already fully formed as an individual with his own personality. My job as a mom is simply to love him and understand him.
What's the most rewarding aspect of being a mom?The physical act of nurturing – touching, hugging, giving kisses – makes me feel so fulfilled as person. It makes me feel like I’m doing something so important when I’m taking care of people. That connection with Huck is very satisfying.
What's the most challenging aspect of being a mom?The sleeping schedule has been the hardest. Huck is not a sleeper. He likes to stay up late and sleep in late. He never took naps so we’re not regimented. I’ve learned though that it’s okay to be the kind of parent that doesn’t have a schedule. Everyone will tell you scheduling is the most important part. I think you have to figure it out for yourself and what works best for you and your baby. It’s hard to trust your instinct, especially if it doesn’t match up with what experts tell you, but you have to trust that you’re doing the right thing.
What’s your favorite part of the day?Really, every moment with Huck is so special. We usually get up around 9 or 9:30am and listen to records in the morning. When he’s not in school, we’ll spend several hours at the playground and run errands, and we’ll do art projects or watch a cartoon in the evenings.
What advice did you receive from your own mom?My mom gave me a lot of advice, but most importantly, she said, “Natalie Jean, Huck is not a reflection of you.” His successes and his failures are not on me. I can do my best and make mistakes at the same time. It’s very liberating as a mother to know he is his own person. He is who he is, and he gets the credit for that.
What advice can you give to other parents?I'd tell them what my mom told me. I’d also say that it’s important to put your relationship with your baby first. Trust who your baby is and what your baby needs. Your baby knows better than any expert. Don’t be afraid to be confident and trust your own intuition.