You’re Never Too Young to Learn How to Properly Set a Table

A new etiquette book has the how-to.
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There’s a new book out for parents, and it has nothing to do with decorating the nursery. Princess Marie-Chantal of Greece just released Manners Begin at Breakfast, a how-to guide on navigating everything from international travel to playdate dress codes. And while it may seem like an overly fancy concept, it’s actually chock-full of actionable, sweetly illustrated tips, proving that modern etiquette doesn’t have to be some antiquated, chew-like-you-have-a-secret ordeal. There’s also a section about the proper way to set a table that all of us will find useful.

In the chapter “At the Table,” Marie-Chantal dives into all things tablescape, including two separate outlines for formal and informal gatherings. The key for both? “Always start with the forks or knives placed on the outside of the setting, and work your way in after each course,” she writes. Here’s how she breaks down the two setups.

Formal

formal table setting illustration
Illustration by Lydia Starkey

Whether hosting a work shindig or an elaborate family feast, sometimes you want to dress things up. Start with the textiles: placemats (or tablecloths) that make a splash. Then pepper in the accessories. Get your little ones in on the action by letting them carefully arrange the glassware and flatware—and don’t forget the espresso mugs for dessert. 

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Stoneware Mug

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Across the Border Linen Placemat Set

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Informal

informal table setting illustration
Illustration by Lydia Starkey

Even weeknight meals can feel special with the right background—but that’s not to say that your Monday pasta night has to be a complicated affair. Pick cutlery according to your menu, and whatever the occasion, don’t forget the wineglasses. It’s never the wrong time for a bottle of red (just maybe leave the kids out of this one). 

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Lisa Corti

Mustard Napkin

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Spindle Flatware

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Dinner is served. 

Manners Begin at Breakfast: Modern Etiquette for Families by Princess MarieChantal of Greece. Published by Vendome Press; available in bookstores and online, March 2020, $24.95.

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Elly Leavitt

Writer and Editor

Elly enjoys covering anything from travel to funky design (tubular furniture, anyone?) to the latest cultural trend. Her dream apartment would exist on the Upper West Side and include a plethora of mismatched antique chairs, ceramic vessels, and floor-to-ceiling bookcases—essential to her goal of becoming a poor man’s Nora Ephron. You can probably find her in line at Trader Joe’s. You will never find her at SoulCycle.