Add Elements of Danger and Fantasy
The mind is the most powerful sex organ that we have.
Though we have evolved as a species, we still have animal instincts within us that come out during sex. Human beings truly get off on thrills and danger. While you might not want to truly risk your lives and livelihood, there are plenty of great ways you can add these elements without risking true danger.
Roleplaying is a great way to trigger these emotions.
For instance, you can play out characters with each other that forces you out of your comfort zone and allows you to take on new and different roles. By tapping into each other's psyche, it becomes easier to make foreplay an all-day thing in your relationship.
This way, once you are ready to have sex, it'll be second nature. Take the time to get to know your own sexuality first, so that you can bring your strength, wants and power into the bedroom.
You can also mix it up with little changes that are psychologiclaly thrilling
. For example, a blowjob on the balcony or meeting up at a hotel out of town can truly get your engines revved. By truly getting to know your own kinks as well as your partner's, you'll get to know exactly which buttons to push.
Make this a never-ending adventure and truly give yourself the opportunity to learn and grow accordingly. This way, you'll be in great hands with each other and can truly get the most from each other.